Voorbereiding online Q&A sessie Business Campus op 30 mei

Welkom op deze voorbereidingspagina voor de online Q&A sessie van de Business Campus die plaatsvindt op donderdag 30 mei om 20:30 uur (let op: dit is een ander tijdstip dan gewoonlijk)!

De online Q&A sessie is bedoeld om jouw vragen ten aanzien van de onderwerpen uit de Business Campus te beantwoorden zodat je weer verder kunt met implementeren.

Plaats jouw vragen IN HET ENGELS hieronder in het commentaarveld.

Alleen vragen die hieronder zijn geplaatst, worden beantwoord in de online Q&A sessie!

Tot donderdag de 30e!

Vered Neta

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Ireen Laarakker
Ireen Laarakker
9 years ago

Hello Vered,

When trying to adapt to the ‘analyser’ communication style, the energy tends to get really low. I wonder how to prevent that from happening.

Kind regards,
Ireen

Peter van den Bos
9 years ago

Vered,

Thanks for the new insights I got from you. The question I have is how do I handle when people push the wrong promotor buttons with me? It helps of course to be aware of these buttons but what can I do more?

I am curious.

Kind regard,

Peter

Daniëlle Lasschuit
Daniëlle Lasschuit
9 years ago

I communicate by nature as a controller. What if a promoter really did something that is unfair and inappropriate, how do you confront that person? I would say after the training that I would be honest about what I have seen and how it makes me feel and then ask the person, what is your idea about this to solve it? Normally I would have expect the person to feel responsible and take the “blame”, but now a solution is fine too.

Is this a good way to approach a promoter?

Coen Tuerlings
9 years ago

Hello Vered,

I’m giving training on thursday, so I’ll miss your Q&A session.

I would like to learn more about the differentiations on communication styles like the sub division promoter/promotor, promotor/supporter, promotor/controller, promotor/analyzer etc.

Can you give some advise where to find this information?

Have a good session

Nicky Beentjes
9 years ago

Hi Vered,

I really enjoyed the Communication Master Class and since that I am busy in my head to think what communication styles my friends and family are using so I can react better in conversations. So much fun to do and realize.

My question:
– I think you mentioned that promoters more or less communicate better with supporters and controllers with analyzers. And that promoters + analyzers and controllers + supporters are having more difficulty communicating with each other. Did I get that right?

I Would love to attend a “2 day Communication Bootcamp” just like the Business Bootcamp once a year! Better communication with partner, family, friends and of course clients!

Else van der Sloot
9 years ago

Hi Vered,

At first, I loved the way you took us by the hand into the world of communication. It really gave me some tremendous insights. Also about a previous marriage 🙁

But: How can I improve my own communication-skills?

I found out that I’m pretty much a promotor, but with some supporter qualities as well. So, I miss structure!
And having my own business I really need more structure.

When you were showing us on stage how a promotor tries to get some structure like with their litlle notes, folded in their pockets, which finally end up in the washing machine (with me it is a pile) I really felt practically naked!

But, in general I don’t have a lot of problems with communicating with the other communication types, so that’s a plus 😉 and also nice since I teach a lot of communication types in my art school.

See you tomorrow!

Have a great day and my warmest greetings, Else

René van Bommel
9 years ago

Hoi Vered,

Weet je ook iets over de verandering van communicatiestijlen onder stress. Kan je ook verschillende communicatiestijlen hebben in verschillende situaties zoals werk en privé?

Of moeten we niet te moeilijk doen (in details treden) en ruwweg (pragmatisch) de verschillende communicatiestijlen erkennen en er rekening mee houden?

Ik denk dat ik je antwoord al weet. Het ligt aan je communicatiestijl. Al bloggend worden we wijzer.

Marloes van der Kamp
9 years ago

Dear Rene,
Interesting question ! Just in case Vered cannot read it, I will translate it, I actually like to know the answer….

Vered, do you know whether people tend to change their communication style In stress-situations? I think I changed more to controller-style because of a lot of (financial) stress; always nice to know of course if I act according to theory… ;).

Anyone recognize changing his communicaton style due to stress?

Esther Molenaar
9 years ago

@Marloes,

I recognize the situation. I also have the idea I change communication style due to stress.

Although my style is supporter, I change to analyzer under stress.

My supporter style is more in the analyzer area, maybe that is why I tend to be more analyzer under stress.

Curious what Vered has to say about that.

Ronald Schuitemaker
Ronald Schuitemaker
9 years ago

Hello Vered,
Last week I had a discussion with one of my colleagues. He should make a Powerpoint. The meeting was at 10.00 in the morning and I got the presentation at 01.00 in the middle of night. I was very angry. Afterwards he said: the presentation was good.
Without your training I didn’t know that this is typical Promotor behaviour.

Ruth Bracke
Ruth Bracke
9 years ago

Vered,
thank you answering my questions.
You were great!

Kristien Langenakens
9 years ago

Hi Vered
First of all thank you for all the valuable information you shared with us during the Communication Master Class.

I wondered to what extent my communication style (promotor) matches other people (a majority/minority?); are there statistics available stating how many % of a population uses a certain communication style?
Thanks in advance
Kind regards
Kristien

Ruth Bracke
Ruth Bracke
9 years ago

Hi Vered,

I have 3 questions:

1.
What is the best way to use the languages when talking to groups where styles are mixed (ex. meetings, presentations, ..)?

2.
How to turn manipulation into cooperation (promotor) when recognition seams not to help?

3. In what extend is this communication ok when talking to a controller?

Thanks for your support!

Ruth

Daniëlle Lasschuit
Daniëlle Lasschuit
9 years ago
Reply to  Ruth Bracke

Hi Ruth,

I am a controller and I suppose you are a promoter?

When reading your questions I understand the first one, but what do you mean by your 2nd and 3rd question? I like more details 🙂

Thank you in advance.

Daniëlle

Marloes van der Kamp
9 years ago

Is there one style that is best to use for blogging? or should I mix? or vary in my style among different blogs?

And second, do you have any tips for how to keep having patience when talking to a supporter (who is actually very much wasting my time…;))?

Thanks for answering, I saw a lot of interesting questions and am happy to tune in tomorrow

Else van der Sloot
9 years ago

Hi Marloes,

As a, pretty much I found out, promotor I’m very interested in Vered’s reply on your problem with us “time wasting” promotors 😉
Apparently you are a controller?
I’ve got a lot of them around me, and really had, and still have, to learn how to communicate with them. I’m very thankful that we very respectfully mostly meet somewhere in the middle.
See you tomorrow!

Marloes van der Kamp
9 years ago

Dear Else,

Yes, I am a controller :). The need for more patience is actually highest when talking to supporters, for whom all these details are important. Compared to supporter-language, promotor-language is easier for me.
What do you as a promotor think most difficult when talking to controllers?

Jacqueline ter Haar
9 years ago

Hi Vered,

I felt fabulous after the Communication Master Class and I am practising as much as I can and I can see some results already! So thank you for the wise lessons!

However, my burning question is…how do I identify what communication type someone is if I don’t speak to that person face-to-face…in other words…if I make a phone call to, for example, a new LinkedIn member to invite him or her for a coffee to get to know each other I have no reference point. Is he or she formal…or informal?

Do you have any tips how to approach perfect strangers?

René van Bommel
9 years ago

80% van de communicatie is non-verbaal! Dus niet wat je zegt maar hoe je het zegt. Vered liet goed zien en horen hoe verschillende communicatiestijlen klinken/eruitzien. Misschien valt hier inderdaad wat meer over te vertellen?

Tenny Jonkers-Weijnen
9 years ago

Hi Jacqueline,

I had exactly the same question.
Is it possible that special occupations mostly use the same language?
In my case will funeral directors mostly use the passive language? So supporter or analyzer?

Esther Molenaar
9 years ago

@Jacqueline,

Daar zat ik ook al mee. Ben nieuwsgierig naar het antwoord.

Martine van Eijk
9 years ago

Dear Vered,

Thank you so much for the insights last week. I’m practising but that ain’t easy.
Do you also manage to use these skills when you talk to a little group people about work? How do you address each personally? How do you ask a few people what you want to be done?

Maaike Frankena
9 years ago

Dear Vered,

I wasn’t able to attend your last Communication Master Class, but I did it last year.

When I got the invitation for tonight, maybe not for me but he, I don’t care about the R right now :-).

ONE question immediately popped out of my sub conciousness.

Can you give me some direction/ more information about where I can educate myself, read, learn .. more about how to use these different styles of communication with children?

And, for me, groups of children. Which is something different then 1 on 1.

I hope so, many thanks in advance and I will see you tonight.

Love Maaike

Barbara Rijskamp
9 years ago

I have a conflict with someone. During the masterclass I realize I made a mistake with my communication style. So I apoligize. She accept it. I also want to learn her about the communication styles. But: how can I tell about the different communication styles without to name their style. You said: you are not a communication style, you use a communication style. How can you avoid misunderstandings?

Jolanda Deken
9 years ago

I’d love to join the call. I’m hungry to hear the practical situations. The information gives me material for years to exercise and improve!
It’s not possible for me to join the call, most of the time I work in the evening.

When I know when the call is scheduled, I arrange time for it.
Is there any possibility to have the information recorded?
I would almost do anything to get it.

Have a good time together!

Hugo Van Verdegem
9 years ago

@Vered and Open Circles team

Tomorrow evening I can’t follow this interesting Q&A session,
because their is an important gathering about the sick son of my partner. Although I don’t want to miss this very important session where I payed for (all sessions of the whole year), can we have a link to watch afterwards the Q&A session of the 30th about Communication Styles?

Thanks for an answer, Hugo from Belgium

Esther Molenaar
9 years ago

@Hugo,

De Q&A sessie van de Communication Master Class is niet morgenavond, maar donderdagavond.

Maureen Mulder
9 years ago

Hi Vered,

Thank you for the great master class!

My main question is: what to do when none of the communication styles work? (eg. Despite several talks and specific mentions about the problem, that person just doesn’t get it and just doesn’t see it. As they say in Dutch : ” hij heeft een plank voor zijn hoofd”

Thanks,
Maureen

Nicoline Caljé
9 years ago

dear Vered,

My question is:
Is it possible that someone’s ‘natural’ (= preferred) communication style changes according to long-term circumstances?
You mentioned that communication styles are more or less behavior that finds its origin in the neurotransmitters: the stronger these paths, the more preferred the type of behavior. So: is it possible that someone creates other ‘paths’ between the brain cells en therefor changes in his preferred style of communication.
With styles of learning (Kolb) for instance I think I recognized a similar situation.

Thanks very much for the inspiring masterclass.
Best regards, Nicoline

Baltus Bot
9 years ago

In the Communication Master Class we learned how to find out the communication style per person and how to react on that knowledge. The burning question I have is how to deal with different persons with different communication styles in a presentation.

Boris Agranovich
9 years ago

For me a major problem in communication is to get rid of the certain habits or patrons of behaviour with some people.

These patrons have been developed during many years of our relationship and it seems that despite all trainings and books we come back to these old habits.

Can you get some tips on how to get rid of these bad long term habits?

Natascha van der Linden

It was just great and I wanted to figure out my son, 16 years old as well. So we did the questions and his scores where 0-1….
Well that is really weird…..1 on the controllers side…….

Left me with big questions marks……
I really want to know witch result to put where in de square of four….because now it just leaves me a bit puzzled…haha…
The mystery of my son is just not raffelt out yet,

Natascha

Esther Molenaar
9 years ago

There are people who use the knowledge of these communication styles as a tric. Often times you notice that in a conversation, it feels fake.
How can I make sure I don’t come about as fake, when I connect with the communicationstyle that is not my own.

Esther Molenaar
9 years ago

Vered, you stated that it is not about the person. You are not your communication style.

What about someones personality? I know people who are promoters, but it is definatly their personality. When you take the communicationstyle away, there are still the trades of a promoter.

Where does the communication style end and the personality begins? How can you distinguish the two?